5 Pieces of Advice to Avoid Disappointment When Building a House

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Designing and building a custom home sounds so fun...at first. You get to pick exactly what you want the house to look like, how you want the rooms to flow, select all the colors and finishes?! Amazing, right?! And it is, don’t get me wrong, but there are also thousands of choices to make and factors outside your control that can (and, spoiler, will) strip out all the fun if you aren’t prepared.

Designing and building a custom home was a new process for us, and we’ve learned a lot along the way. I’m here to pass along my top five pieces of advice for anyone starting the home-building process to learn from our mistakes!

Be flexible

We’ve been planning this house for about three years now and we’re still making changes. Things that make sense on paper don’t always translate to real life, so being flexible has kept us sane.

For example, we had planned pocket doors for the office, but there ended up being a load-bearing beam placed right in the path of the doors. After framing was complete, we needed to pivot to double French metal and glass barn doors, which will end up enhancing the look of the office.

Whatever your budget is, increase it

Everyone seems to go into a new home build with a healthy budget they feel confident they can stick to; however, things change. Since we initially started designing, the cost of certain items have increased in price due to tariffs or supply shortages. Those things add up, as do the little changes along the way.

Adding extra outlets or lights that weren’t in the plan are an added expense, but it’s easier and cheaper to install them now versus hiring an electrician afterwards. Just keep a little extra padding in the budget for unforeseen items and pricing increases.

Identify your priority spaces and spend your money there

It’s easy to start spending a little extra money on upgrades here and there, but soon, here and there becomes everywhere and your original budget is way back in the rearview mirror.

One of my top pieces of advice is to really prioritize your home features. Are you a home chef who loves to cook gourmet meals? Then you will want to spend your budget wisely when it comes to kitchen appliances. But if you hate cooking, do you really need the $15k upgraded range? Probably not.

Architect looking at blueprint on computer at desk and making notes on paper.
It’s easy to start spending a little extra money on upgrades here and there, but soon, here and there becomes everywhere and your original budget is way back in the rearview mirror.
Architect looking at blueprint on computer at desk and making notes on paper.
It’s easy to start spending a little extra money on upgrades here and there, but soon, here and there becomes everywhere and your original budget is way back in the rearview mirror.

For us, we tried to focus on several spaces in our new home design. Having built-in systems for organization and storage was one priority and fireplaces were another. Not only do fireplaces add warmth and ambiance to a room, but we have found them to be an extremely functional feature living in Colorado with cold winter nights.

We chose to install four fireplaces in our new house because we knew exactly how we’d be using the space and saw a need for all four—really! By installing fireplaces in various locations throughout the house (a Cosmo in the master bedroom, a TRUE in the great room, a SlimLine 7X in the basement rec room and a SlimLine 5 in the home office) we will be able to efficiently heat up the rooms we plan on spending the most time in, instead of turning up the heat throughout the entire house.

Adjust your expectations on timing

This process is so much longer than you ever imagined. We were initially told 8-10 months for construction, but in reality, we’ll be looking at a minimum of 12 months. Our delay is due to a variety of factors (looking at you, global pandemic!), but knowing that delays happen is something that everyone building a home should come to terms with early on. If possible, try to keep your current living arrangements flexible, which’ll reduce stress when your move-in date (inevitably) gets pushed back.

Understand the timeline and order of events

Before going through this process, I had virtually no knowledge of construction timelines other than the obvious parts like framing first, then roof. I was surprised to find out we had to make decisions regarding fireplace design very early in the process. Do you want a fireplace? Traditional style or modern? Are you going to hang a TV over the fireplace? Will there be a mantel? Each one of these seemingly little design details can totally change the installation and ventilation requirements.

We were leaning toward a modern, linear fireplace for the master bedroom, but hadn’t made any decisions beyond that before going to the fireplace showroom (we worked with Rio Grande Co., one of the largest fireplace distributors in the Denver area). The consultant walked us through the various options for each room including ventilation requirements. She explained that if we wanted a television or art mounted above the fireplace without a mantel, we needed a venting system that would manage the heat. When planning your fireplace wall(s), I encourage you to think through your vision including the fireplace style, mantel, TV and artwork during the initial design phase.

Open-style living room with boxed-beam ceiling is set off by dark-blue feature wall with open gas fireplace
When planning your fireplace wall, I encourage you to think through your vision including the fireplace style, mantel, TV, artwork, during the initial design phase.
Open-style living room with boxed-beam ceiling is set off by dark-blue feature wall with open gas fireplace
When planning your fireplace wall, I encourage you to think through your vision including the fireplace style, mantel, TV, artwork, during the initial design phase.

It can be easy to get overwhelmed at the sheer volume of choices you’ll need to make during this process, so it’s helpful to have your builder assign you a few pieces of “homework” at a time. Having a firm grasp on the timeline of your build will help you make decisions in the best order so you can focus on smaller chunks at a time and avoid unnecessary delays or overwhelm.

Rachael Dorr

Rachael Dorr is the owner and writer of the blog, Shut the Front Dorr, as well as a corporate event planner. She lives in Denver, Colorado with her husband, Jeff, and two young children, Everett and Emerson. They are currently building their dream home in the suburbs of Denver–a process they started in the summer of 2019. They describe the house as “Modern Vintage,” a custom transitional design that seamlessly blends traditional elements, such as a turret and a wraparound porch, with modern updates like shaker cabinets and sliding barn doors.

“We looked for years for the perfect house but couldn’t find what we were looking for, so we decided to design it ourselves. This is the first time we’ve ever designed or built a custom home, which has been such a labor of love. It’s a process filled with ups and downs, but it’s so worth it to see your vision come to life! Even though 2020 has thrown us some curveballs, the house should be finally move-in ready by the end of the year!”

We were proud to partner with Rachael on her fireplace projects, featuring the TRUE, Cosmo and SlimLine. You can follow along with her custom home-building journey on her Instagram account, @shutthefrontdorrblog.

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